“Happiness, comes from inside.” Everywhere you will go, you might face the same problems as home, as long as you are not able to deal with things in a different way. If you expect everything to be the same way as it is at home, then taking a vacation or moving abroad to relax is pointless.
You would not be able to enjoy yourself. You would constantly be annoyed by one thing or another. You would spend a great deal of time comparing the two countries, trying to impose your ways.
You would be too caught up in discrediting other cultures or blaming the lack of knowledge, experience or resources. Thus, you would miss to recognize and appreciate the creativity or the innovative ways of dealing with things. There's more than one way to solve a problem, right?
Once you accept you are the one who needs to change, then everything else goes smoothly. But when you are trying to swim against the current, you always end up exhausted and miserable.
“Just go with the flow, and learn to value the people in your life, not the things around you.” I learnt this lesson from my grandparents. They lived a long happy life, surrounded by family and good quality friends. I remember that in their small two bedroom house, they always had someone staying there. Either a relative, a traveller, a stranger… Their door was always opened to anyone. And it’s funny that at that time, there were plenty of robberies in their neighbourhood.
During my last trip to Central America, while I was doing my daily run on the beach, I met a sixty years old man from Vermont. He was very chatty and within the first five minutes of our conversation he revealed that he was a resident. He had bought a small beachfront house and had settled in Tamarindo (a small town located on the Nicoya Peninsula, in Costa Rica) one year ago.
For a few seconds I envied him. Who wouldn't like to live in the tropics, surfing all day long, and enjoying the amazing sunsets on the beach? But as he continued to talk to me, I realized that the poor guy was miserable. None of the above things mattered to him. He was annoyed that the “ticos” (meaning the locals) were not respecting deadlines or appointments, which everything took much more time to get fixed or done. He had a type of personality, and he seemed to have a hard time adapting to the Latin time.
I couldn't help imagining the life he had before moving here. He used to be a cnc cutting specialist. Due to the nature of his profession, he was a perfectionist. No surprise that he was unhappy while living in paradise!