My best friend got recently divorced. She was married for sixteen years with her high school love. Apparently after ten years things were not going too great. Six years later their relationship turned sour and they could not tolerate each other's’ presence under the same roof. They were lucky that they had no children. Then it would have been more difficult for them to go separate ways. Plus, the kids would have been the ones suffering the most.
However, my best friend is recovering quite well after her divorce. I would dare to say that she is so much better on her own. She is far stronger and independent than everyone would have ever thought. She snatched a great job, bought a condo and manages to find time to volunteer in a retirement home for elderly people.
What I love the most about her recovery is that she is done talking about her failed relationship. She is no longer analyzing things nor thinking if she could have changed something to save her marriage. On my opinion she has given him way too many chances!
Although they were done, I know she was still caring about her ex. Why do I say that? Because two months after their divorce, she was still snooping on his FB account, trying to see what he was up to. She was curious to find out if was seeing another woman, if he was over her. I tried to convince her that it was a complete waste of time. She should have focus on her future instead of lingering over past.
This past Saturday it would have been their seventieth wedding anniversary. I worried that she might get upset or sad and spend the day alone at home. That was the last thing I wanted for her. Thus I planned to take her out somewhere. I called her and asked her not to make any plans for Saturday because I had a surprise for day: a girls’ day out.
We started the day with a facial beauty treatment and a massage at the Spa center rosemere, and then we went for lunch, followed by a shopping session at Angrignon mall. After three hours of shopping we crashed at Starbucks and had a coffee with muffins.
When I got home I was exhausted, but in a good way. Getting pampered early morning at the Spa felt amazing. Also being with her. the entire day was great. I was relieved to see that she was doing well, that she was over her ex-husband.